Love Deepens

Tomorrow is the anniversary of my first son’s birth. But today is the anniversary of all those labour pains that lead to his being born. It was 14 years ago and I was in the cubicle farm that was my workspace. I was laughing with a colleague about the...

Where Is The IKEA Doula?

IKEA furniture is designed to ruin friendships, wreck marriages, give you blisters and make you cry. If I’d had an IKEA doula, though, my gently used, slightly beaten up Expedit shelf would be standing right now. When my amazing neighbour Erin was moving and...

The HFD Difference: No Shaming

Are you pregnant or a parent? Ever had someone tell you how you should give birth to or feed your baby?  Of course you have!  And that sucks. The Globe and Mail recently published a story about birth shaming. It spoke to the problem of natural childbirth activists...

This Might Hurt

Cuts and tears and repairs? Oh my!  I’m just going to come out an say it: your vagina might get injured during birth.  Did you just cross your legs protectively? Because I just did. Of all the things pregnant women tell me they are afraid of, tearing when...

Why I Stopped Preaching About Natural Birth

When people find out that I’m a doula they make one huge assumption about me: I only support people who are planning natural births. Not only that, but that I might try to talk them into a natural birth if they have been considering using an epidural. Nothing...